Why Are You Married? – Assume Love
There are many reasons to marry. Beware of scope creep. I need to remind myself sometimes that I married for love, not for a better...
Plan Your 50th Anniversary – Assume Love
My first husband and I did this entirely by accident, and now I highly recommend it, even though he did not survive to enjoy the...
Plan Your 50th Anniversary – Assume Love
My first husband and I did this entirely by accident, and now I highly recommend it, even though he did not survive to enjoy the...
Snarky Comments – Assume Love
S Snarky comments about your wife or husband never make a marriage happier or stronger…not even if you share them only with your friends. AssumeLove.com...
How to Get Your Husband or Wife to Change – Assume Love
When you married, your spouse seemed perfect. Since then, you’ve discovered an upsetting habit. Or she’s given up vegan for keto. Or he’s stopped exercising...
Comment on If Your Husband is Oblivious to How Unhappy You Are by Patty Newbold
In reply to Nunya. Don’t coddle, Nunya. Speak up. But if you want your speaking up to be effective, try to speak up in a...
Trial Balloon Failure – Assume Love
I was reminded again last week about something a client taught me long ago. Some of us make our decisions out loud. Others don’t speak...
Husbands Whose Driving Frightens their Wives – Assume Love
When I get into the car with my husband, I am often frightened. And I know I am not alone. One of the most frequent...
Tunnel Vision Keeps You From Really Enjoying Your Marriage – Assume Love
Tunnel vision is like looking through an empty paper towel roll. You still see things, but you don’t see all of your options. And it...
50th Anniversary – Assume Love
The summer after my sophomore year in college, I followed the man I’d met and fallen in love with ten weeks earlier to Bakersfield. We...